Professional Black Sista’s Searching For Love:

Why is it all the educated black sista’s are not married? Why do they all hang together instead of with a progressive professional black brother? I know a few progressive, educated and beautiful black sista’s that are looking for love. Why do other ethnic women get married off before our educated sista’s? Why do our BLACK MEN, when they get a little wealthy, run and get a White woman (or woman of a different race?) Why is this? Well here are a few myths I heard through the years. I heard that black brothers think sista’s are too opinionated, materialistic or just too hard on a brother. Then I heard that white women are more laid back and easily swayed (oh my bad, I meant easy going). Then the brothers say that the sista’s complain too much and are too bossy. They say the white women are naïve and loose (oh I meant they are fresh and. accommodating – ha-ha….) Please don’t hate on me. These are myths I heard throughout my life experience.

So….. let’s start with our sista’s. Are we too opinionated and materialistic for our black brothers? Should we tone it down (or in other words lower our standards) or maybe look to another race like our beautiful brothers do? Well in my opinion I think that all educated black beautiful sista’s should weigh their options. But sista's remember that despite who you are involved with always love yourself. Do what is good for you and that man. Never give up on love, because it will find you and when it does you will know when and what to do, even if it is not with a black brother.

So my black brothers what is your problem? Why would you not want an educated, black sista? Do the sista’s scare you away with there ambitious career minded status? Or are you brothers too ashamed of your own self, your own failures, that you can’t relate and respect all the trials and tribulations that we all have shared. Look at our history? We both have endured oppression. So my brothers take a look at yourselves in the mirror. What do you see? A sista will stand by her man to the end of time.

Now a days a sista can take care of herself and you too (if she chooses, no joke…) so cherish her and let her know that she is the black queen that you need and can succeed with. So what is your problem, my black brothers? Is it something in the water that is making you lose your mind and the history of our forefathers? We are the only race of people that stray away from our own in such large numbers, no other race does it the way we do. Just for the record, there’s nothing wrong with a good white sista hooking up with a good black brother. Only I hope neither one is running away from their own race to do so. WAKE UP, WAKE UP, WAKE UP.

Come back my brothers to our sista’s and embrace them. Let your strong union shine in front of all to see. Let the world know that we are a together people. Learn how to love yourself, so you can love your beautiful black sista… Wake up my people. Get the sleep out of your eyes. Come on let me know what you think? Our sista’s are waiting.

Healthcare 102:

Well it looks like the Democrats have gotten dazed and confused again. What happened to the majority in the House and Senate? Why did a Republican get voted into Ted Kennedy’s seat? I’ll tell you what I think, we Americans are so stuck on what this country was built on, but not looking around enough to see all the people that are suffering and dying everyday because of lack of healthcare. Do the Politicians, Insurance companies, Special Interest groups, and Pharmaceutical companies care? I think not. Reason why is because they will lose out on the money that’s in it for them, and are afraid of losing the cushy jobs that they have. Many Special Interest groups are bankrolled by the companies and Politicians own stock in most of the companies which are bankrolled by them and the Special Interest groups. It’s hard for real Healthcare Reform to happen when so many Politicians owe their wealth to these groups.

So in a nutshell, as a Capitalist country, we are run by big business, lobbyist and special interest groups (people with money.) I believe these people are mainly Republicans who feel the little person deserves what they already have, which in some cases is too much of nothing; Republicans say that if they had only pulled themselves up by their bootstraps (even if they don’t have any) they would have more. Republicans criticize the proposed healthcare legislation citing it is government ran but fail to acknowledge that programs like Medicare (which their parents probably benefit from) are also government run. The Republicans don’t want any kind of healthcare reform and they know it. They definitely don’t want to be bipartisan (for them it’s a conflict of interest.) Now the Democrats do have a problem and that is being a unified party. What happened to doing what is good for the people and our country? So many Politicians are not Public Servants anymore. They are more concerned about their political gain and we as Americans just don’t seem to get it!

Radio Shows

What happen to all the liberal radio shows? There are not many for us in my State of Illinois. Mainly all we have are those conservative ones, bashing the President and the Democrats. Republicans are not bipartisan and never will be. They want the President to fail, so they can take back the country and screw it up just like the last 8 years. Please let’s start paying attention to what is happening. We need more voices on the radio that speak for us. We are even outgunned on the TV airwaves. Fox News has more viewers than all the so-called liberal stations combined. We need more liberals to talk for the poor and middle class people. We need more liberals to speak on our behalf, the older Americans (baby boomers) that worked hard all there life, put into the system, paid taxes, and tried to reach for the American dream. What happened to those people? We need people on the airwaves (to speak for us). We need people to speak up loud, like the Republicans do. What’s the problem? The Radio Stations say no one is listening. They say there are not enough listeners for sponsors to promote their products to (and therefore buy radio spots; sadly that’s a money game too.) They also question the quality of the host are they funny enough, hard hitting enough, convincing enough? What happened to our black leaders? We need more voices on the radio? If we don’t, then the conservatives will fill all Americans’ heads with misinformation. Pretty soon it will become a class war, the rich against the poor and the middle class in between. Let’s wake up people. This political system is really not working for the people. They hold us hostage and they control it all. They drain everything out of struggling people who can barely make ends meet. Come on true liberals take a stand. Start demanding liberal airwaves. And make sure to listen this time. Let’s stand united and together. You control more than you realize.

Politics 102:

Now lets get down to more facts. Recently the Democrat Party had enough votes to move any bill through the Congressional House and to the President’s desk. But as of Tuesday, January 19, 2010 the Republicans of all people, took the seat of the late Ted Kennedy-Senator from Massachusetts, a Democrat. Kennedy held that seat for decades, what a shame, I am sure he is turning in his grave. But the point I’m trying to make is what happen to the black votes, did we let the Republicans bully us into casting a Republican vote or did we vote at all? Like I said before, we need to learn, read and study politics. First of all, Massachusetts has Universal Healthcare, (this was done when Mitt Romney was Governor of Massachusetts ("The Republican Who Thinks Big on Healthcare"). So maybe they don’t care about the rest of the country. Second, why did the Democrats seem so complacent (I guess they thought they had this election in the bag?) Third, why does our President seem like he’s just not sure as to what he should be focusing on first. Don’t get me wrong, but don’t we need jobs, jobs, and jobs? Is anyone listening up there in Washington? There was an article I read written by Howard Fineman from Newsweek entitled, "The Democrats Who Deserve Blame For Their Loss In Massachusetts", and one point that stood out was that the Democrats loss Kennedy’s seat. I sort of agree, which I am saddened, but I have noticed that since the Presidents been in office, the Democrats can’t seem to get along and they have the majority (refer to politics 101 introduction).

Now I am ashamed of the people of Massachusetts because they know that Ted Kennedy fought hard for the Universal Healthcare their State now has. Now the people of Massachusetts are afraid of Universal Healthcare for all, because in their State its mandatory and they have high premiums. They fear they will have to absorb additional costs by subsidizing the other States, so I can understand their concern, but not to the point that they will appoint a Republican to discredit the Democrats or deny other people Universal Healthcare (now is that selfish?). Another article to read is called "Why Health Reform may survive Brown’s win" – in Marketwatch by Kristen Gerencher.

We are a confused nation, full of greed and selfishness. We don’t care about the other person, just ourselves. So once again, especially my black people, let’s start paying attention to the ills of this world and let our voices be heard in a positive way. Why can’t we lend a hand to someone in need here in America? Why can’t we share our ideas and concerns with each other? Why can’t we help each other, especially, if we got it like that (and there are a lot of us who got it like that, if you know what I mean.) Come on my people, lets wake up.

Social Issue: Parenting/Abuse

Well, I grew up on the Westside of Chicago, Illinois. My mom was a single parent for a while when I was growing up. My mom was a good parent-- she was very stern but never abused my two brothers or me in any way. She was a good mom and I always felt protected. We were poor and grew up on public aid, food stamps, and my mom cleaned houses and did day labor. She was gone a lot, but she always made sure we had food, clean clothes and a warm clean apartment. She was a strict disciplinarian (back in them days the late50’s to early 60’s mothers didn’t spare the rod-- if you know what I mean). When she said something, all she needed was to give us that look, and we all knew what that meant. My mom then met my step-dad when I was maybe 8 or 9. He loved my mother so…. He provided for us and gave my mom everything she ever wanted. We had a good life. I felt protected with them all my life. I was never abused, harmed or mistreated. I got everything I asked for materially and never felt that I could not go to them for anything. My mom was my best friend and, I could tell her any and everything. In my growing up, none of my friends or anyone I knew had been molested by their parents. I didn’t know that sexual abuse existed in our community--it wasn’t around me. I remember neighbors looking out for people when I was a child, so I always felt safe and secure. I didn’t know it was so bad in our community until I became an adult. Anyway, the story is my mom did not play and would not have allowed anyone to harm me-- which I knew. Plus she told me and I know my step-dad knew that as well. Unfortunately I no longer have that sense of protection that my parents were so good about giving me (my mom passed away in 2005 and my step-dad in 2009—oh how I miss them so).

So why do mothers (of all people) let their husbands, man, friend or family member abuse/molest their child? I have an issue with our black families, when fathers abandon their children, or molest their children. What is up with that? What makes a man or women abuse a child, especially their own? Maybe it happened to them in their childhood? That still doesn’t make it right. Where does the cycle stop? We have a problem within our black community where we sweep everything under the rug without speaking out to someone about it. Why are we so afraid to air our dirty laundry? Why do we paint the picture that all is well at home when we know it isn’t? What’s wrong with our mothers, that allow our children to be abused and mistreated by a no good man.

Why do we as black people have so many children and then expect the government to take care of them? Why can’t we just use the appropriate precautions and say to ourselves that we won’t have anymore babies if we can’t afford them? Ultimately it is the child that suffers in the end. Why do we make our young daughters bare a child when we know they can’t take care of it? Why is it acceptable to be a grandmother in your 30’s? Why do we think that if our daughter’s abort the child then we have sinned— why is it right to submit a child to violence, drugs, poverty and promiscuity? (And the line “The Lord will make a way” is wearing thin) Isn’t it a sin to promote/encourage detrimental behavior? What happened to a good, nuclear family structure where there is a husband and wife, with strong values and morals? Let’s wake up my black people! Let’s teach our children to respect themselves and adults. Let someone give you some good advice on how you can better raise your child. Let someone mentor you on being a good parent. Parents drop your pride and search inside yourself to find out how/why you dropped the ball. Lots of parents need help in parenting. Reach out for help… stop… stop hiding behind the darkness and enter into the light. Let’s take a look at ourselves and look around to see what a mess we are in. Come on black people, start changing your ways. Let me hear from you…